I promise that this will be my last posting on grieving over my pup…but I think I’ve discovered that I am very inexperienced with grief.
Though I have to say I have been so touched by the e-mails and cards and comments. It’s amazing how much it helps! Makes me realize that reaching out to someone who is grieving is very important. Kindness is downright therapeutic.
Yesterday was a hard day. It was the first “normal” day after Azure’s passing. The house was quiet. My eldest daughter had been visiting and left for home.
In some ways, it might have been the toughest day. Coming home to an empty house, for example. Ouch ouch ouch.
Actually, I was able to tell two friends about Azure without tearing up, which I considered a step forward.
Last night, I woke up and my thoughts bounced back to Azure and I felt that crest of sadness again.
So here is my question to those of you who have worked through grief of any kind:
Am I dwelling? Or processing?
Any insights to enlighten me?
Although I’ve never grieved a pet, anytime something is a part of your life and then is gone, you will think of it. You are definitely processing, since you were able to talk to friends without tears. I would be a tad concerned if you were still virtually non-functional.
The important thing is to allow yourself to feel whatever you’re feeling. I know when my mom died, there were okay days and then days when I would be enormously sad. On the sad days, I just took it easy and experienced the sadness – I didn’t try to distract myself or cheer up, which would have just pushed it down and stifled it. I allowed myself to feel what I was feeling.
Hope that makes sense.
When I read your posts my heart broke for you. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Three years ago we lost our yellow lab, Otie. He was my guy. He collapsed at home and the vet made a house call to put him down. I’ve never sobbed so hard when they carried him out and I wished more than anything I could speed up time to lessen the pain. I honestly wasn’t sure I’d recover.
Allow yourself to grieve, and know that time will heal. You’ve lost a member of your family and there are many of us who completely understand the pain you’re feeling right now. ~God Bless
I know when Oreo is away at the groomer or if I have left her with someone because I am leaving town the house seems so empty without her. I miss having her sit by me – and I am not even a dog person! This will definitely take time…. Any dog is lucky to have you as their mom!