Conversations with Dad

There’s an interesting development at my dad’s dementia facility…Dad has a lady friend.

Let’s call her…Betty (not her real name). Betty is is very, very attached to Dad.

In an odd way, this is really a good thing. It’s called: transferring of attachments. Very common among Alzheimer’s patients and actually a compliment to a long, happy marriage. In fact, it’s even a nice feeling that he has a “particular friend” at the facility.

A while ago, my sister had my mom up to her house for a weekend visit and together they saw the movie Away from Her starring Julie Christie. (Great movie to get on Netflix if you’re looking for a good one.)

After seeing the movie, when Mom realized Betty had become “particular friends” with Dad, Mom seemed to understand and not feel threatened or disturbed by it. Very impressive–and also a sign that she is fully understanding Dad’s illness.

A good sign, because Betty’s clothes are hanging in Dad’s closet (he shares a room so I doubt there is anything going on that would make a daughter blush).

Her family picture (not ours!) is on Dad’s nightstand.

And when my sister stopped by to visit on Dad’s birthday, as she was saying good-bye Betty called out, “Thanks for coming to see us!”

About Suzanne

Suzanne Woods Fisher writes bestselling, award winning fiction and non-fiction books about the Old Order Amish for Revell Books. Her interest in the Plain People began with her Old Order German Baptist grandfather, raised in Franklin County, Pennsylvania. Suzanne's app, Amish Wisdom, delivers a daily Amish proverb to your phone or iPad. She writes a bi-monthly column for Christian Post and Cooking & Such magazine. She lives with her family in California and raises puppies for Guide Dogs for the Blind. To Suzanne's way of thinking, you can't take life too seriously when a puppy is running through your house with someone's underwear in its mouth.

Comments

  1. Mocha with Linda says:

    Oh. My.

    Deb Raney’s A Vow to Cherish dealt with the other end of the spectrum (the lonely spouse caring for the Alzheimer’s patient, but that’s a new twist!

    Kudos to your mom for handling it so well.

    BTW, check my blog for a fun thing today! (No rhyming involved! LOL)

  2. Anonymous says:

    Suz, The Lord calls upon us to serve no matter how unique or unusual the need. Even in a world of dementia, your dad has found a need and serves with grace. This is a true testament of character and honor.
    With love and friendship,
    K